Family Safety: Start Here

Start with the person in front of you. A parent, a grandparent, and a teen do not need the same settings on the same day. This page is the short list. Each link goes to a guide that names the real setting and the date it was checked.

The full set of family guides is in Kids Online Safety. Company policy reviews are in Privacy Policies Watch. This page is not legal advice, and it is not a monitoring tool.

If you are setting up a child’s phone

Do these before you hand the phone over. Tell the child what you turned on. A surprise lock causes a fight, and a second phone.

  1. iPhone Screen Time, or Google Family Link if the phone is Android. Family Link cannot supervise an iPhone.
  2. YouTube Kids or a supervised YouTube account. Restricted Mode is not the same thing.
  3. The app they already use: Roblox, TikTok Family Pairing, Instagram Teen Accounts, Snapchat Family Center, or Discord Family Center.
  4. Location sharing: who can see the dot, and how each person turns it off.
  5. Shared photos: leave the public website and the open link off.
  6. School apps: ask before a form gets a Social Security number.
  7. A free credit freeze if the child is under 16.

If you are helping an older adult

Do not turn a parent’s phone into a child’s phone. The useful jobs are fewer scam calls, a rule for gift cards, and a password they can still open after you leave.

  1. Stop scam calls on a parent’s phone. Silence is not the same setting on Android as on iPhone.
  2. Gift cards are only for gifts. Agree on the callback before anyone is scared.
  3. A pop-up with a phone number is a scam. Close it. Do not call the number.
  4. A password manager for email and the bank, plus a second lock. Show them how to open it the same day.
  5. Location sharing only with the people they named, and show the off switch.

If you are a teen

You can make most of these stricter yourself. A parent link, where it exists, cannot be loosened by you, and you can usually remove the link. Read that before you accept it.

  • Keep the account private. Instagram’s teen settings and TikTok’s private-account switch are the two to check first.
  • Do not read a gift-card PIN, a login code, or a password to someone who called or texted. Hang up and tell an adult in the house.
  • A shared album link can be forwarded. Do not put a friend’s face on a link you do not control.
  • At 16 or 17, the FTC says you may be able to place or remove your own credit freeze. Ask before you apply for a card or a loan if a parent froze it earlier.

One week, not one afternoon

Pick three items. Do those. The rest can wait until next weekend. A finished Screen Time passcode beats a half-finished tour of every app.

  • Day one: the phone lock, Screen Time or Family Link, and the passphrase for a password manager.
  • Day two: the one app the child uses most, and the gift-card rule said out loud.
  • Day three: location or photos, whichever is already shared. Turn off the public link.

All family guides

New guides are added to Kids Online Safety. Scam guides for calls, pop-ups, and gift cards are in Scam Protection.

Settings menus move. If a step in a linked guide does not match the phone, use the company or FTC page cited at the bottom of that guide. This page is not legal, medical, or financial advice.